• 1. Thou shalt not use a computer to harm other people.
• 2. Thou shalt not interfere with other people's computer work.
• 3. Thou shalt not snoop around in other people's files.
• 4. Thou shalt not use a computer to steal.
• 5. Thou shalt not use a computer to bear false witness.
• 6. Thou shalt not use or copy software for which you have not paid.
• 7. Thou shalt not use other people's computer resources without authorization.
• 8. Thou shalt not appropriate other people's intellectual output.
• 9. Thou shalt think about the social consequences of the program you write.
• 10. Thou shalt use a computer in ways that show consideration and respect.

CHATTERS WHO INSIST ON USING ALL CAPS
WILL BE IGNORED IN CHAT BY MOST.

By the way, underlined postings are concidered about as rude
as all caps in chat.

Huge fonts are just as bad too.

Spamming (repetitive postings of the exact same, or comparable, similar content) posts
may also result in negative actions. Spamming (repetitive postings of the exact same, or comparable, similar content) posts
may also result in negative actions. Spamming (repetitive postings of the exact same, or comparable, similar content) posts
may also result in negative actions. Spamming (repetitive postings of the exact same, or comparable, similar content) posts
may also result in negative actions

1. Do not discriminate anyone in any case. This may sound logical, but we just want to stress it. This realm must be great to visit for everyone.

    

2. Insulting behaviour is not accepted, even when masked as jokes. An insult is an insult when someone feels insulted.

    

3. No impersonations of other people's handles, no matter if primary or secondary handles, unless permision given. This also goes for "mock names" that are very similar to the original one.

    

4. Remember that these places are visited by minors. Do not mention explicite sexual or violent happenings.

    

5. No floodings. Though you may be tempted to test "empty lines" - when it is considered disturbing by the other chatters you are supposed to stop immediately.

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7. If a Ruler asks you to stop a certain behaviour, please do so. If you are, for any reason, asked to leave the chats, do so as well. You can discuss this decision in private with the person in question or inform the according "reign".

Basic Chattiquette 101 states thou shalt not SCREAM!

All Caps in chat is interpretable yelling.

Yelling in chat is RUDE.

Some chatters seem to think that all caps
is a good way to draw attention to themselves.
Well that is true. All caps will get some attention
but I assure you it will be in a negative form.






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25 Top Tips of better conversations

Conversations need room to grow if they are to reach their full potential. Research shows that we spend a lot less time talking to people close to us than we imagine. Yet oddly, when a conversation is really working well, the time seems to fly by.
 

1. Make conversations like dancing: a two-way partnership, with neither side dominating.
    
2. The 'stitch in time' rule applies to communication as well.
   Studies show that many of our more 'difficult' conversations (the ones that turn into battles) could be avoided by staying in more regular contact. In other words, a chat a day can keep the arguments at bay.
    
3. Every conversation is a potential learning experience. We can all make our lives richer by understanding the experiences of others. Having a conversation with someone is like exploring the pages of an encyclopedia full of valuable knowledge.
    
4. How other people see you greatly influences how they approach you in conversation. If there are negative sides to your reputation as a communicator, work hard to change them.
    
5. Try to avoid the Blame Game. Use "I" statements rather than "you" statements when talking about your thoughts and feelings.
    
6. Unless you're able to recognise your own feelings, you won't be able to express them clearly and be open with other people. If you are not able to recognise other people's feelings, you'll only ever understand part of their picture.
    
7. Many misunderstandings arise from faulty assumptions about all kinds of facts and feelings. So when in doubt, say what you mean and encourage the other person to do the same. Hinting isn't good enough.
    
8. Blaming the other person for not understanding you - or for you not understanding them - is pointless. While you can't be responsible for the other person's efforts, you can for your own.
    
9. Don't bring up important issues where there isn't the time to deal with them properly or if the circumstances are wrong.
    
10. Use the opening part of a conversation to be up front about why you'd like to talk and what your main point is. You'll engage the interest of the other person and help them understand what follows.
     
11. Talk in a way that's about real things, real experiences and real feelings. Aim to be the central character of your stories.
     
12. Once the conversation has finished, it's too late to say the things you left out.
     
13. Regularly summing up what you've said can transform the quality and accuracy of your conversations - and instantly eliminate many of the knock-on problems caused by misunderstandings.
     
14. Don't just listen to the words, listen to the 'music' as well, including body language and voice quality. Also, look for clues in what is not being said.
     
15. Listen with as little prejudice and as few presumptions as possible. Avoid snap judgements. Let your understanding develop like the image on a Polaroid film as the information comes in. Try to avoid responses that are criticisms in disguise. They are likely to sabotage the conversation.
     
16. Empathy is about demonstrating that you understand. You can best do this through words that reflect the other person's meaning. So take care to feed in plenty of Highlights as you go along.
     
17. Be willing to recognise when you don't understand or need to know more. The other person will respect you for your efforts.
     
18. If you're not clear, try, try and try again. It may not be your 'fault' that you're feeling fuzzy. It could be that the other person's thoughts are unclear. Encourage them to be concrete and specific about all the ingredients of their story.
     
19. From time to time, feed back a summary of your understanding to confirm that you've got it right.
     
20. The best decisions are those people reach for themselves. So be lean on the advice but generous with the help and support. Men in particular feel the need to solve other people's problems - especially those of their partners. This can cause friction when all the partner wants to do is unload her day's experiences.
     
21. If a conversation is failing to work because of negative feelings on either side, deal with this issue separately.
     
22. It's an important way to establish and demonstrate our closeness to people. Also, gossiping is good for you. It helps you stay in touch with the details that make daily life easier to organise.
     
23. Offer helpful feedback based on a straightforward description of the behaviour and its impact. Before you
    offer advice or guidance, always make sure you have enough information.
     
24. Being genuine is at the heart of all worthwhile communication.

Protect your self in yahoo chat rooms

What is Y!Tunnel?
Y!Tunnel is a companion utility for Yahoo! Messenger that provides additional functionality and several extra levels of protection from abusive users.

In addition to filtering "bootcodes" and "floods", Y!Tunnel also includes features for filtering font effects, reducing the side of extremely large fonts in chatrooms, and enhanced privacy.

Yah^ELite is an unofficial, free, highly efficient and comfortable anti-SPAM chat client that filters out spam bots, clone bots, abusive PMs, flood text, repeated postings and other forms of spam.
It also protects you from 'boot codes', 'sound bombs' and other mischief.
Yah^ELite runs on Windows^tm and Linux WINE

Tutorials

http://www.shearologist.com/yahelite.html

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How To Avoid Being *Booted In Yahoo Chat

There are all kinds of filters, anti boots and Yahoo compatible chat programs that are supposed to help you avoid being booted in chat. We've found one very simple and easy way to avoid the problem completely.

Entering Chat Rooms Via Java Chat

Java code is a different type of computer code than the HTML code used by your standard Yahoo Messenger. Java code does not support any types of boot codes or boot programs.

The method is extremely simple. Type the following into your browser: chat.yahoo.com - Just that, no www or anything else. You will get a chat room applet that will take you into chat via Java code. Bookmark/Add to Favorites the page and use it whenever you go into chat rather than entering via Yahoo Messenger. The only downside to entering chat in this fashion is the inability to use personal fonts, which you may have installed on your PC. This will stop you from being booted from the room, but you are still accessible through your Yahoo Messenger if you have it running.

Settings In Yahoo Messenger

You can probably stop booting via your Messenger if you adjust two settings. In your Messenger window, click on Login, select Privacy Settings and select the option to "Ignore anyone who is not on my Friend list." Also, while you have that window open, click on Chat on the left side and select the option to "Ignore chat invitations." Adjusting these two settings should handle attacks to you personally, however if you have someone so driven as to get around these, you may need to shut down your Messenger completely. Of course, you want to add the person using the boot codes to your ignore list.

Reporting People Using Boot Codes

If you can get evidence of the person sending you boot codes, you can go to http://add.yahoo.com/fast/help/abuse/cgi_abuse and copy and paste the username and the codes they sent into the complaint window. We suggest you keep this page Bookmarked if you are a regular chatter so you can access it readily when you encounter abuse of Yahoo Chat.

Java Messenger

You also have the option to use Java Messenger. What you get is a temporary friends list that is not loaded on your PC and the Instant Message window is quite small. (Difficult to use if you are an older chatter and like a bigger font.) It is however, a way to view your Friend List and communicate with friends without being booted. To use the Java messenger, go to http://messenger.yahoo.com/ and click on the Java option on the top left of the page under "Quick Downloads".

Bye-Bye Booters

Did you know Yahoo! has a form to use if you are being harassed or abused find it here Y